A once-a-year ritual
When Tim Urban calculated how many times he'd see his parents before they died, he'd already used 93% of that time. This is a tool to help you face the same truth — and do something about it.
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Each dot is one day
with someone you love
"It turns out that when I graduated from high school, I had already used up 93% of my in-person parent time. I'm now enjoying the last 5% of that time. We're in the tail end."Tim Urban — Wait But Why
How it works
Name them. Say how often you see them. Be honest about the numbers — this only works if you are.
A dot grid shows days already spent vs. days remaining. One extra visit a year changes the math more than you expect.
Three honest questions. Sealed for a year. Next time you open this, you'll read your own words before you begin again.
Sign in to open your reflection.
Opening your reflection...
This year's reflection
This ritual is designed to be done once per year. The waiting is part of it.
Step 1 of 5 — You
We need this to calculate what's actually finite.
Step 2 of 5 — Your people
Add up to 5 people whose time with you feels most precious and finite. Be honest — not ambitious.
Step 3 of 5 — Your reality
Faded dots = days already spent. Dark dots = days remaining. Each dot is one day.
What if you visited just one more time per year?
Select habits that take more time than they deserve:
Step 4 of 5 — Your words
Answer honestly. Next year, you'll read these before you begin again.
"When I look at my time with the people I love, I feel..."
"The one relationship I've been neglecting because of inertia is..."
"The one concrete thing I will do differently in the next 12 months is..."
Saved —
Your reflection is saved to your account. It will be here when you return next year.